NLP and deciding

Self management can mean deciding to make the best of every new day. When waking up from a busy sleep filled with dreaming or a dreamless sleep, on both occasions a new day begins and a new opportunity to choose your state of mind comes with it. Dreams may influence your state or mood for a couple of minutes in which your passage from dream life to worldly life occurs.
However your day begins, once out and about most of us do our usual patterns like; work, care for others and ourselves, eat & drink, leisure time and back to lay ourselves to rest. There is nothing wrong with that.
The other possibility, is to chose to live beyond our usual patterns. Decide on how our work, care taking and leisure time can satisfy our body and mind.
The NLP course  supports the latter possibility where you manage your life by choosing how you spend your day rather than merely letting your day happen. And by choosing fulfillment, relaxation, motivational thinking style, possibilities, options , and other aspects every new day offers, you inspire others to do the same.
Deciding on how you will do your job and how you will fulfill your obligations is a key to the flow any one can experience.
As a manager, coach, leader, parent or loved one you may lead by example in a way that your surrounding unconsciously see in you a role model. Then you’ll notice how your NLP course has an effect of making daily life's habits meaningful to to yourself and to others.

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nlp metaphors and relationships

NLP regarding intimate relationships & friendships and metaphors

A metaphor:
As your relationship with a loved one reaches some depth, you will set foot on the area where diamonds lay hidden. In this area we may stumble over these surprisingly sharp rocks, and as of then try to step over them or walk around them because we fail to recognize them. Stumbling over things does not seem to enrich us in any way, however occasionally we get back up on our feet a richer personality.
NLP can serve as a very fine instrument to distinguish one rock from another. Recognize valuable material some rocks are made of and work with it so that brilliance of the diamond emerges.
Relationships belong to the life area where we have the opportunity to experience truth, integrity, flexibility, bravery, openness, vulnerability, and so much more facets that make us shine.
The NLP expert can teach you the business of recognizing and faceting these sharp rocks you stumble over in your relationship, so that your brilliance appears from under its lightless surface, and that shine enriches you just as diamonds are meant to do.

NLP uses metaphors and other language forms to describe experiences that may otherwise be indescribable.
Like the definition of love can never be accurate because we experience love in our own unique way, so may most descriptions of experiences be in accurate.
When we learn to stay open to all differences and similarities that we encounter on our ways, we are blessed with a mind that embraces rather than excludes. We may judge our personal encounters on what we experience as fitting our persona or not, however this judgment will always be based on what we experience, rather than on what the other person does or does not do.

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Delegates from all walks of life learn about the influence communication may have on personal and professional life.


Topics:

• Insight in personal communication
• Insight in communication of others
• Use adequate language in different situations that benefits all
• Express motivational language
• Inspire others
• Discovery of personal blind spots and unconscious qualities
• Change undermining patterns to beneficial patterns
• Adopt leadership skills

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What is the difference between face2face and online coaching?

When clients come to my office in Amsterdam, it approximately takes us five to six sessions to really change certain difficulties.
Clean Language and NLP are fine tools to help us find our ways, however they are merely tools.
The real work comes from within when both my client's an my inner worlds meet in a place void of rational perception.
That is what counseling is all about in my practice.
While helping via the Internet the tools that matter most are more the web cam, the well functioning video chat application and insight in coaching and human psychology.
Conversations still have their depth, but are conducted on a rational basis. Feelings do play an important role with every coaching session, they are how ever perceived with our rational understanding of feelings.
The main difference between face2face work and online work lay in the level of consciousness of change. Unconscious change happens in my office in Amsterdam and conscious improvement of situations happens via www.onlinepersonalcoach.net

Facebook, Twitter and other messenger conflicts

How do conflicts come to existence, or better how do you deal with a conflict (text) message from a friend, a lover or a Facebook friend.
If we can deal with that, then the conflict cannot or can hardly come to existence.
My friend and colleague asked me the question a couple of days ago when she told me about the huge fight she and her loved one had had. After they had talked about it and things were settled between them, they wanted to find a way to not let this happen again.
My advice was to step back when you first read the message and ask yourself, what is the matter, what makes me so angry or sad that it makes me want to react negatively.
When I say step back, I mean step back from the message and back to your self knowledge.
But today I came to the realisation by my own personal experience that this advice is not enough.
A friend of mine has put a negative message about people in general on her Facebook wall, a message that I took personally. This friend claims to have a spiritual mind and that is why I was even more surprised to read this negative quote, because spirituality usually promotes positivity.
I felt my heart pounding when I read it and immediately had a clever answer ready to undermine this negative quote. But then my heart started pounding even harder, so I knew I was doing the wrong thing.
Fortunately I was able to step back and ask myself what was the matter with me, and that question gave me my answer but it did not help me deal with the fact that I wanted to react.
What helped me calm down and let go of my anger was the question my daughter asked me.
She asked me: do you really want to create a conflict with your friend or can you rise above this behavior?
I am still a bit hurt, annoyed and surprised, but I can rise above this and be ready for the talk with my friend when we meet "live"
Facebook and Twitter are already being abused too often to inflict pain or impress, and clever people understand the cowardice of that.

Let go

"You have to let it go" words so many people use when their friends find them selves struggling with reality.
Usually with realities like a break up, a loss of significance, and undesired changes.
But how do you do that? How do you let go when your thoughts keep you awake at night and consume your day?
Or when not so heavy, for example when your child grows into a teenager and starts smoking cigarettes and drinking funny sweet stuff like Malibu with orange juice.
You know that it will not take long before the Vodka will be discovered.
You have got to let go of your kids and trust that they are clever enough to keep themselves healthy and focused on the good.
Of course you continue to watch out for them, of course you observe and guide them, but still, you have to let them find out for them selves how cigarettes, drinks and love work.
My daughter is now sixteen years old, right in the middle of puberty and well on her way to adolescence
My way to let go of being a worried, nagging mother, is placing this reality on a time line as a point of reference.
So we have the before and the after.
Before she was a wonderfully easy and loving daughter, and now she is the same girl who has become a lot more then just my daughter.
So this is the after which means that her natural dependency on me has changed into a healthy Independence.
I can only trust that I have raised her well, and that trust provides for the fun part of letting go.
I become a witness of my personal values and of certain parts of my self, by watching her move through life, and I can anticipate on the wonder of my daughter's own personal development, based on that.

Letting go of more difficult matters can be done in the same way.
Place your issue on your time line, find out what you still bring to the present from your history and how you can do things differently or if convenient repeat them tomorrow.
If you are not familiar with  the word time line, here you have your brief description.
Your time line is a line you can draw on a piece of paper, that has a starting point which is your day and year of birth. From that point, the line continues until your present day, and on that line you can mark dates or years, that had impact on your life due to experiences.
Time lines as a tool, are used in NLP and psycho therapy.
This all may sound a bit too easy and that is right, because placing things on your time line requires experience.
However if you know that things change all the time and that some experiences need to be let go of, you can only let go by placing things.
Heavy impacts cannot be deleted from your emotional memory, they can be parked in their right place though.
Eventually you will notice that these difficulties are just a part of your existence, that they contribute to life as you live it.

Beyoncé - Year of 4