Influence

How can we distinguish our caracter from our personality when it comes to our relational abilities. The ability to be our self in relation to the world. When working as a marriage counselor online with http://www.onlinepersonalcoach.net/ I have the beautiful oportunity to find out about that. Marriage counseling is all about healing our relational quality. Also in our most intimate relations we sometimes loose that ability because fear, shame, or other negative thoughts and feelings come looking around the corner. Then suddenly our caracter and personality change places. I met this woman at a bbq last weekend and she told me that she was adopted by a lovely family but that she had always felt different from her brothers and sisters. She was only told at the age of 17 years that she was adopted because she just could not let go of this feeling. Even though this lady was brought up in America in a very harmonious family, and enjoys the positive influence from her her upbringing, her caracter is stronger than anything. She now lives in Amsterdam, raising her own daughter with her husband. The influence of her parents made her personality an easy one and her Dutch caracter motivated her to find out where she belongs. Feeling at ease in Holland is part of her caracter and finding her happiness might have a lot to do with her harmonious personality.