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What can you do to get the feeling that you are being listened to. In work situations and friendships this might be easy because your conversation partner wants to know your thoughts for some reason. They are either interested in learning something from you as a person or as a necaserry information source. Problems in the relational sphere often rise from this invisible feeling that people get, because the other is not acting like they know them well enough. At least that is what I get to work with in my practice for marriage counseling. So my job is to teach my clients to listen. Listen to your self when you speak, really hear what you are saying and realize if your words or describing what is happening or if your words are only a projection of your own issue. And ofcourse as a partner, the listening should be as open hearted as possible. There we have another field to tap in to. Because we all have had our own upbringing with values and believes, it must be very difficult to not let these values and believes interfere. The one thing you can do here is be fully aware of your experiences and upbringing, so that you know that you can let go of the marks they might have left on your heart. Good marks or bad marks, they work as filters to an open heart.